Are You Doing It Wrong?
Doing what wrong you ask? Well, the most frequent, important and often undetectable thing that we are all engaged in, at all times of the day and night. It’s thinking of course, we all do it and when I look around and find few smiling faces, it is obvious to me that many of us are doing it all wrong. The amazing bodies and resources we have been provided with on this planet, leads me to believe that we were put here to prosper and feel as much joy as is possible. So many people are not living passionate lives and it is my belief that our way of thinking is what has led people away from the happiness, we are all meant to achieve.
As human beings, we generally think of ourselves as rational creatures yet, we are unaware of ways that our thinking is irrational and biased. We think logically, make decisions based on the best interests of ourselves and others. Humans do the things we need to do in order to thrive in the world, our brains evolved with handy shortcuts to help us identify threats and make quick judgments. And even in the modern world, where we don’t face threats to our survival every day, they’re still very much present, and they shape the way we experience the world and ourselves.
There are common thinking errors and cognitive biases that you may not even be aware of that shape the way we view ourselves and the world.
Most people love to focus on the negative.
According to psychologist Rick Hanson, author of Hardwiring Happiness, the brain is like velcro for negative experience and teflon for positive ones. The brain is constantly scanning for threats, an advantage as we evolved, and even though we no longer deal with the threat of being eaten by wild animals, our brain hasn’t let go of its sensitivity to perceived threats.
One of the most basic thinking mistakes is is believing a false hypothesis to be true, often by mistaking correlation for causality and while it does lead to thought errors, thinking this way may have given us an evolutionary advantage.
Causal thinking evolved to allow people to understand and control their environment, to be able to predict that, for example, if you eat a blue mushroom you will die.
Yet we often don’t see what’s right in front of our face.
If you think you’re present and mindful to your environment, it may be true to a certain extent, you’re probably not as aware as you think. In a now-famous 1998 study, researchers from Harvard and Kent State University targeted college campus pedestrians to see how much they noticed about their immediate surroundings. It seems that we rely on memory significantly more than we think we do, and that our visual perception may not be as reliable as we think.
People are heavily biased towards things that agree with them.
Brains have quite a distaste for conflict and disagreement and go to great lengths to avoid it, we gravitate towards things that we agree with or that reinforce our existing beliefs, and avoid those that oppose our beliefs. We have such a hard time changing our mind about things, it is mentally taxing for us to let go of what we think we know and start collecting evidence for a new hypothesis, bias can lead us into error.
We tend to magnify our mistakes and flaws, thinking that people are paying more attention to them than they really are. This is referred to in psychology as “Spotlight Effect” and it is the tendency to think that other people notice things about us more than they actually do, it is basically the result of our naturally egocentric worldview.
“We all are the center of our own universes,” Heflick wrote in Psychology Today. “This is not to say we are arrogant, or value ourselves more than others, but rather, that our entire existence is from our own experiences and perspective…. But other people not only lack the knowledge of, for instance, the stain that you have, but they are the center of their own universes too, and in turn, are focused on other things.”
We put our subjects under a harsh and slanted spotlight.
People’s decisions are highly subject to our personally held biases.
We’re faced with a feast of choices for even the most mundane decisions, besides the plethora of consumer goods to choose from, we can select a movie to watch from the hundreds available on Netflix, and the options for what to tweet or share on Facebook are practically infinite. Despite this illusion of freedom, all of these choices may be skewing our choices and leading our minds into errors in judgement. Sometimes, having too many options keeps us from making any decisions at all and when we do not pick something, we’re more likely to regret or be disappointed by it. The more options there are, the easier it is to regret anything at all that is disappointing. Regrets subtract from the satisfaction that one would have gotten out of the decision made, even if it was a good decision. The more options there are, the easier it is to regret anything at all that is disappointing.
We are unable to put full trust in our memories.
Our common error is allowing our view of the past to be influenced by our emotions in the present, because your anger, or any other emotion you’re experiencing, will change the way you think about the past. Most of us like to think that we recall events with accuracy, yet we don’t need psychologists to tell us that, our memory is subject to a long list of biases and errors.
We are all partial to our own kind.
Both historical events and everyday experience demonstrate, again and again, our favouritism towards members of our own social groups. Human beings have a well-documented cognitive bias towards members of their own clans, and this even goes beyond ethnic, social or nationality groupings. Psychologists have found in group bias to exist even among randomly assigned groups. Favouritism of our own can sometimes, although not necessarily, lead to judging, stereotyping and hostility towards other groups. In short, it is important to closely examine our thinking and always be evolving towards improvement in these areas of thinking. In order to move forward and evolve to a higher state of consciousness we must eliminate our sensitivities towards threats and examine our biases preventing them from clouding our decision making capabilities. Together we are making the world a better place.
Good Morning Day 2
Good Morning Day 1
Some of the Clydesdales I love
Castles in the Sand
Our First Foal of the 2014 Breeding Season
This is a rare occurance in the horse world, because horses have evolved as prey animals they have a strong instinct to have their foals under the cover of darkness. In the three seasons that I have been at this barn for breeding season, this is only the second time that a foal was born while I was there in the morning and I have been present for the care of at least fifty foals so far. When I arrived at the barn this morning I was expecting to see a foal and what I saw was the mare turned out in the riding areana and so I knew birth was emminante. When I looked again this particular brood mare had been turned outside and after speaking with my mentor, he said that he had called the vet out because something was not quite right. So, we went about our daily activities, about an hour later we were all called out to help bring this cute little foal into the barn, because it was born out in the paddock. We got mother and baby settled in the areana and the vet was cancelled. We all know that when baby animals start showwing up that spring is just around the corner and here in Canada we welcome it with open arms. Check out the videos to see some of what went down on the farm today!
I appologize for the wind noise on these videos, I knew it would sound like that so I kept them short!
Sound is better in the barn out of the wind!
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